Hello. It's me. That voice coming from behind that pile of papers, statements, forms, contracts, checks, and more papers.
This is what it is like to buy a home in financially insecure times. A home you can not just buy from a seller, but a home of co-operation. I have finally assembled the 70 page stacks of "please pick us" goodness and tonight they will all be copied 9 times. I am just glad the board doesn't have a bigger table or else i may just have to carry all the packets on a pallet and just fork them down like they do with bags of concrete at Home Depot.
I seriously have to re-think how we are going to get all these papers home.
Relieved to be finished? Yes. I mean, we still have to be approved first, but still. We are dying to move. Not because we won't miss the city (There's a reason I bought a Mega Millions ticket this afternoon), but because we need some space. Just a place where you don't have to walk around things so much. We need a place to put all our generous gifts. We seriously don't know what we have anymore because they are sitting in New Jersey (sorry Jung!). We need to be able to say, "Hi dear, I'm in the other room." Drool.
These papers. I hope we are done. I hope I am going to go to Queens tomorrow and drop everything off. I hope I don't get papercuts.
Thursday, December 11, 2008
Friday, November 21, 2008
Cold and Hungry
It's a wintery 36 degrees (feels like 33) outside today in NYC, but it feels even colder than that in my office. The vent right above my desk has been blowing cold air on me all morning as I stare at this obnoxious shade of blue all over my computer screen.
So I'm going to go out and get some ramen to warm me up. At first I thought of going to Pro Bagel for some kimchi ramen, but then I remembered that they use the instant kind and just put a few slices of kimchi in it and charge $8.
I am exploring better japanese options right now:
Ippudo NY
Famous Japanese chain - supposed to be the best. But too far from me.
Minca
Sounds good, but also too far.
Menchanko Tei
Was going to go here until I read it was closed by DOH once. Yuck. Oh wait, that was the other location. Still...
Menkui Tei
I've been to the one in East Village and like it - should I try this one?
Sapporo
Tried Sapporo before and wasn't that impressed, but then again, I didn't get the ramen. Maybe should give it another chance.
Today I will go to Menkui Tei, as it is already late and it's closest to me. But I will try all of these - I'm sure I'll have many ramen cravings this winter.
I'm a ramaniac.
So I'm going to go out and get some ramen to warm me up. At first I thought of going to Pro Bagel for some kimchi ramen, but then I remembered that they use the instant kind and just put a few slices of kimchi in it and charge $8.
I am exploring better japanese options right now:
Ippudo NY
Famous Japanese chain - supposed to be the best. But too far from me.
Minca
Sounds good, but also too far.
Menchanko Tei
Was going to go here until I read it was closed by DOH once. Yuck. Oh wait, that was the other location. Still...
Menkui Tei
I've been to the one in East Village and like it - should I try this one?
Sapporo
Tried Sapporo before and wasn't that impressed, but then again, I didn't get the ramen. Maybe should give it another chance.
Today I will go to Menkui Tei, as it is already late and it's closest to me. But I will try all of these - I'm sure I'll have many ramen cravings this winter.
I'm a ramaniac.
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Monday, November 17, 2008
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Decorate
I've been scouring design blogs for the past month, getting inspired to decorate our future apartment. There is so much you can do with a space, it's a bit overwhelming trying to decide on a style or not going overboard with too much stuff.
Matt and I have similar yet different tastes. He likes art prints, toys, underground style, and custom furniture. I like chandeliers, antique French signs, contemporary style, and mid-century furniture. It will be interesting to see what we come up with as a compromise.
While we decide (and wait for our contract), I will post pictures and links to stuff I like. Most of these things are unrealistic for our space and wallets but a girl can dream...
White Chandelier
Glass Star
Retro Wall Clock
Beautiful Wallpaper
Eames Rocker
Cool Couch
more later...
Matt and I have similar yet different tastes. He likes art prints, toys, underground style, and custom furniture. I like chandeliers, antique French signs, contemporary style, and mid-century furniture. It will be interesting to see what we come up with as a compromise.
While we decide (and wait for our contract), I will post pictures and links to stuff I like. Most of these things are unrealistic for our space and wallets but a girl can dream...
White Chandelier
Glass Star
Retro Wall Clock
Beautiful Wallpaper
Eames Rocker
Cool Couch
more later...
Monday, November 10, 2008
Waiting
I hate waiting. We're so close to closing, so close to moving in to our dream apartment. But there are a million little things that need to get done before we can. And the people who need to do them keep us waiting.
I hate lawyers.
I hate co-op boards.
I hate banks.
I also hate wedding photographers.
I'm waiting...
I hate lawyers.
I hate co-op boards.
I hate banks.
I also hate wedding photographers.
I'm waiting...
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Dating
I've been working late (meaning past 12:30pm) days since I've been back. While it has it's drawbacks, there is one big positive.
Since Ji Eun works around the corner from me, I get to head over to meet her and we've gone out for lunch dates. We get to spend such a limited amount of time together some nights, that these afternoon meals together have been the perfect opportunity just to enjoy each others' company and catch up. It's the perfect way to end my workday and I don't have to wait another six hours for her to come home.
It's pretty great to date.
Since Ji Eun works around the corner from me, I get to head over to meet her and we've gone out for lunch dates. We get to spend such a limited amount of time together some nights, that these afternoon meals together have been the perfect opportunity just to enjoy each others' company and catch up. It's the perfect way to end my workday and I don't have to wait another six hours for her to come home.
It's pretty great to date.
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
ARGH
Just want to say that the whole real estate industry is a scam. SCAM.
Everyone is trying to get paid - people who have nothing to do with anything!
Why is it so complicated? If it were up to me, the process would go something like this:
Me: Hi! I like your house. I will buy it from you for 2 dollars!
Owner: Hi! Thanks, but I think my house is worth 4 dollars.
Me: Oh, ok. How about we compromise - I'll pay you 3 dollars.
Owner: Ok! We have a deal!
(Shake hands and exchange money and keys)
Me and former Owner: Hooray!
Everyone is trying to get paid - people who have nothing to do with anything!
Why is it so complicated? If it were up to me, the process would go something like this:
Me: Hi! I like your house. I will buy it from you for 2 dollars!
Owner: Hi! Thanks, but I think my house is worth 4 dollars.
Me: Oh, ok. How about we compromise - I'll pay you 3 dollars.
Owner: Ok! We have a deal!
(Shake hands and exchange money and keys)
Me and former Owner: Hooray!
Thursday, October 16, 2008
Wedding Day
I still have a hard time believing it really happened. Still have a strange feeling that she said, "Yes," 42 weeks and and three days ago. That she met me down the aisle, looked into my eyes and promised to take me. And she promised to be mine.
A wedding is a beautiful thing. I have never experienced the feeling of calm that I did that day. All the planning was done. All the placed were set. The guests were in their assigned seats waiting to witness this thing we put together. Over the four plus years, there are some people who have seen glimpses of what we've been through. People see moments of the ups and the downs, share memories with us, and we'll always have those stories. However, the two people standing in front, pledging to share their lives together, are the only two who have been through every moment of those lives together. This was another moment. One that we will keep for ourselves and one we shared with you and it could not have been more perfect.
Some observations about weddings. I was told beforehand that the day would be a blur and to take a moment to try and slow it down. Very true. The wedding was in real time, but the reception was a blur. I don't remember 80% of the songs played. I don't know what any of my dinner tasted like. I couldn't tell you when it all ended. We'll wait until we get our pictures back to try and piece it all together.
I do know these things:
I did much better on the first dance than I thought I would.
We picked some good speech makers.
My father-in-law is by far the greatest dancer EVER!
My side of the family thinks I'm ugly.
The Tom Fauls is potent.
If you are getting married, spend the money for the chocolate fountain.
Your face will not fall off if you smile this much.
People say that the wedding is all about the couple getting married. Hard to argue that point. But for the married couple, a wedding is almost like a vicarious moment. You plan this big event so your guests have a great time. If that happens, then you have have succeeded and can be satisfied. It's almost like being a proud parent as you sit at your table thinking, "That's my wedding!" You get your joy from the guests. Seeing them dance wildly, eat voraciously, laugh and hug, take pictures. I think you get the most satisfaction from the older crowd. They've been to a ton of these. If they are having a great time, you know you've got something good going. The other telling sign is the little kids. If they don't pass out then they are having fun too. Everyone in the middle? It's open bar...what's your excuse? As far as I can tell, we went 3 for 3 with the guests, so color me pleased.
As Ji Eun has mentioned already, we got to live the best day of our lives September 21st. Thank you to everyone who added so much to it small or gigantic. We are lucky to be surrounded by people with such loyalty, character, and selflessness. It took a lot of people to put this together, but we pulled it off. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Finally, I would also like to take some time out to thank four people to whom we owe everything.
To our parents, who are beyond generous with their love, support, time, and finances. We wouldn't be the people we are without your guidance, and certainly wouldn't be prepared for this marriage without the incredible examples you've provided. We love you all very much and will forever be looking to you for advice and inspiration.
So we're married. Crazy huh? Crazy awesome.
A wedding is a beautiful thing. I have never experienced the feeling of calm that I did that day. All the planning was done. All the placed were set. The guests were in their assigned seats waiting to witness this thing we put together. Over the four plus years, there are some people who have seen glimpses of what we've been through. People see moments of the ups and the downs, share memories with us, and we'll always have those stories. However, the two people standing in front, pledging to share their lives together, are the only two who have been through every moment of those lives together. This was another moment. One that we will keep for ourselves and one we shared with you and it could not have been more perfect.
Some observations about weddings. I was told beforehand that the day would be a blur and to take a moment to try and slow it down. Very true. The wedding was in real time, but the reception was a blur. I don't remember 80% of the songs played. I don't know what any of my dinner tasted like. I couldn't tell you when it all ended. We'll wait until we get our pictures back to try and piece it all together.
I do know these things:
I did much better on the first dance than I thought I would.
We picked some good speech makers.
My father-in-law is by far the greatest dancer EVER!
My side of the family thinks I'm ugly.
The Tom Fauls is potent.
If you are getting married, spend the money for the chocolate fountain.
Your face will not fall off if you smile this much.
People say that the wedding is all about the couple getting married. Hard to argue that point. But for the married couple, a wedding is almost like a vicarious moment. You plan this big event so your guests have a great time. If that happens, then you have have succeeded and can be satisfied. It's almost like being a proud parent as you sit at your table thinking, "That's my wedding!" You get your joy from the guests. Seeing them dance wildly, eat voraciously, laugh and hug, take pictures. I think you get the most satisfaction from the older crowd. They've been to a ton of these. If they are having a great time, you know you've got something good going. The other telling sign is the little kids. If they don't pass out then they are having fun too. Everyone in the middle? It's open bar...what's your excuse? As far as I can tell, we went 3 for 3 with the guests, so color me pleased.
As Ji Eun has mentioned already, we got to live the best day of our lives September 21st. Thank you to everyone who added so much to it small or gigantic. We are lucky to be surrounded by people with such loyalty, character, and selflessness. It took a lot of people to put this together, but we pulled it off. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Finally, I would also like to take some time out to thank four people to whom we owe everything.
To our parents, who are beyond generous with their love, support, time, and finances. We wouldn't be the people we are without your guidance, and certainly wouldn't be prepared for this marriage without the incredible examples you've provided. We love you all very much and will forever be looking to you for advice and inspiration.
So we're married. Crazy huh? Crazy awesome.
Monday, October 13, 2008
Work is SoBoring.
Life after a wedding and honeymoon is calm. We are happily settling in to married life and keeping busy by visiting family and trying to get organized.
The getting organized part is taking some time. Sorry for the lack of updates and photos. We are still sorting through our gazillion Hawaii pictures, engagement pictures, and waiting for our wedding pictures. Promise, soon!
I still can't believe we're married married. I can't believe we pulled off a nice, fun wedding. I can't believe my sister and cousin baked 600 scones.
The whole wedding process was really fun and I am glad we planned it ourselves. It was nerve-wracking and stressful, but in the end we got the wedding we wanted. I was so flattered when people complimented us on the details we put so much thought into, like the cranes, programs, favors. Everyone says those things don't matter, that no one notices, but they do - those little personal touches are what make the occasion special and memorable, imho.
I had the most amazing morning, even though I overslept by an hour. I calmly took a shower and drove myself and my dress to the Rockleigh. Along the way, I saw two squirrels, two birds, and two deer, like they'd all woken up early to wish me well, and the fog rolling over the river under the sunrise. What a way to start the wedding day. The rest of the day went by so fast, but it was exactly right. I remember that Matt was happy and I was happy. We smiled a lot and it didn't even hurt our faces.
Thanks to Jung Eun, Mrs. Suss, and my Mom for being the dream team of wedding planning and to everyone else for supporting us along the way. More updates soon!
The getting organized part is taking some time. Sorry for the lack of updates and photos. We are still sorting through our gazillion Hawaii pictures, engagement pictures, and waiting for our wedding pictures. Promise, soon!
I still can't believe we're married married. I can't believe we pulled off a nice, fun wedding. I can't believe my sister and cousin baked 600 scones.
The whole wedding process was really fun and I am glad we planned it ourselves. It was nerve-wracking and stressful, but in the end we got the wedding we wanted. I was so flattered when people complimented us on the details we put so much thought into, like the cranes, programs, favors. Everyone says those things don't matter, that no one notices, but they do - those little personal touches are what make the occasion special and memorable, imho.
I had the most amazing morning, even though I overslept by an hour. I calmly took a shower and drove myself and my dress to the Rockleigh. Along the way, I saw two squirrels, two birds, and two deer, like they'd all woken up early to wish me well, and the fog rolling over the river under the sunrise. What a way to start the wedding day. The rest of the day went by so fast, but it was exactly right. I remember that Matt was happy and I was happy. We smiled a lot and it didn't even hurt our faces.
Thanks to Jung Eun, Mrs. Suss, and my Mom for being the dream team of wedding planning and to everyone else for supporting us along the way. More updates soon!
Monday, September 22, 2008
Our Cocktail Hour Playlist
We've gotten a few requests, so here it is:
Waltz for Zizi by The Seatbelts
Something by The Beatles
No One's Gonna Love You by Band of Horses
Superstarr Pt. 2 by K-Os
Besame Mucho by Cesaria Evora
Better Part of Me by House of Fools
First Day of My Life by Bright Eyes
Moon River by Andy Williams
Baby Love Child by Pizzicato Five
You Got It by Roy Orbison
The Promise by When in Rome
Starlight by Muse
Here in Your Arms by Hellogoodbye
Ageless Beauty by Stars
The Earthquake of '73 by Fruit Bats
Wherefore & Why by Gordon Lightfoot
Such Great Heights by Postal Service
Feel the love.
Waltz for Zizi by The Seatbelts
Something by The Beatles
No One's Gonna Love You by Band of Horses
Superstarr Pt. 2 by K-Os
Besame Mucho by Cesaria Evora
Better Part of Me by House of Fools
First Day of My Life by Bright Eyes
Moon River by Andy Williams
Baby Love Child by Pizzicato Five
You Got It by Roy Orbison
The Promise by When in Rome
Starlight by Muse
Here in Your Arms by Hellogoodbye
Ageless Beauty by Stars
The Earthquake of '73 by Fruit Bats
Wherefore & Why by Gordon Lightfoot
Such Great Heights by Postal Service
Feel the love.
The best day of my life
Today was truly a perfect, blessed day.
Thank you to our parents, family and friends for making our wedding all we wanted it to be and more. We hope you enjoyed it.
We'll update more once we return from honeymoon. We love you everybody!
Thank you to our parents, family and friends for making our wedding all we wanted it to be and more. We hope you enjoyed it.
We'll update more once we return from honeymoon. We love you everybody!
Monday, September 15, 2008
Freak Out moment
OMG.
We are getting married in less than a week.
OMG.
I'm trying to keep calm. I'm trying not to freak out. I'm here at work trying to finish up these projects before my last day tomorrow but it's hard to focus when all I am thinking about are the million different things we need to do this week and worrying that we're forgetting something very important.
What are we forgetting? Anything?
We got a priest, we did place cards, we have programs, I have a dress, we have food, music, photographer...
What is missing?
I want to be one of those cool, calm, collected brides - all stoic and graceful. But these butterflies in my stomach must be on crack cuz they're not flittering, they're flapping around wildly all crashing into each other.
I am so happy but also nauseous.
6 days left!
We are getting married in less than a week.
OMG.
I'm trying to keep calm. I'm trying not to freak out. I'm here at work trying to finish up these projects before my last day tomorrow but it's hard to focus when all I am thinking about are the million different things we need to do this week and worrying that we're forgetting something very important.
What are we forgetting? Anything?
We got a priest, we did place cards, we have programs, I have a dress, we have food, music, photographer...
What is missing?
I want to be one of those cool, calm, collected brides - all stoic and graceful. But these butterflies in my stomach must be on crack cuz they're not flittering, they're flapping around wildly all crashing into each other.
I am so happy but also nauseous.
6 days left!
Thursday, September 11, 2008
Bridal Bash Weekend
I had a blast last weekend with my friends and family. My sister and bridesmaids did a great job organizing the shower and bachelorette party and everything turned out great! There are dozens more pictures, but I only posted a few to preserve our (my) reputation. ;-)
A great big thanks to the girls and everyone who came!
Love you!
A great big thanks to the girls and everyone who came!
Love you!
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
We're getting Maui-ed
We are going to Maui and Kauai!
I want to climb a volcano, see the sunrise in Haleakala, learn how to hula, get a massage on the beach, ride a helicopter, go hiking, look at birds, look at ocean creatures, drink pineapple wine, drink kona coffee, shop in Wailea, learn how to surf, visit Waimea Canyon, go to a luau...
Am I forgetting anything?
Mahalo!
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
Tuesday, August 5, 2008
Envy
Just look at this wedding of these grade school sweethearts
Isn't it the cutest?
I keep coming across details and images from other people's weddings that make me wish we could have a small outdoor wedding instead. A guest list of 75, an intimate garden party in the evening, orange paper lanterns hanging from trees, Moroccan lanterns with flickering candles, a huge glass jar full of lemonade, a clothespin line of messages and polaroids for a guest book, pretty succulents in apothecary jars, daisies in an antique blue glass jars...
But ours will be very different. More formal, more elegant, indoors - still we're trying to incorporate some details that make it less stuffy, less ordinary. And I got my Moroccan lanterns so I'm happy.
Updates:
1. Confirmation on our Engagement photo session next Wednesday! I'm so excited. But what to wear? Where to go?
Do you want to see our photographer's work? It's amazing.
Heather Waraksa Blog
2. We got rings, picked the menu, chose our cake, got my bridesmaid dresses in, got my dress in. I'll go for my first fitting next week - NERVOUS!
3. Florist appointment is tonight to see a sample of what he's going to do for us. I hope it's beautiful! And I hope he doesn't charge us more for the candelabras.
4. Coming up we have the bridal shower/bachelor/bachelorette party weekend. It's about to get crazy!
Things we still need:
Guest books
Place Cards
Thank you Stationery
Jewelry
Gifts for our party
46 Days and counting! OMG OMG OMG
Isn't it the cutest?
I keep coming across details and images from other people's weddings that make me wish we could have a small outdoor wedding instead. A guest list of 75, an intimate garden party in the evening, orange paper lanterns hanging from trees, Moroccan lanterns with flickering candles, a huge glass jar full of lemonade, a clothespin line of messages and polaroids for a guest book, pretty succulents in apothecary jars, daisies in an antique blue glass jars...
But ours will be very different. More formal, more elegant, indoors - still we're trying to incorporate some details that make it less stuffy, less ordinary. And I got my Moroccan lanterns so I'm happy.
Updates:
1. Confirmation on our Engagement photo session next Wednesday! I'm so excited. But what to wear? Where to go?
Do you want to see our photographer's work? It's amazing.
Heather Waraksa Blog
2. We got rings, picked the menu, chose our cake, got my bridesmaid dresses in, got my dress in. I'll go for my first fitting next week - NERVOUS!
3. Florist appointment is tonight to see a sample of what he's going to do for us. I hope it's beautiful! And I hope he doesn't charge us more for the candelabras.
4. Coming up we have the bridal shower/bachelor/bachelorette party weekend. It's about to get crazy!
Things we still need:
Guest books
Place Cards
Thank you Stationery
Jewelry
Gifts for our party
46 Days and counting! OMG OMG OMG
Friday, August 1, 2008
Station Break
I am very excited for the no fun Olympics. So much so that I got a new name here.
In other news, the tuxedo search is pretty much a wrap. Just working out some details. Very classy details. No spats though. No white tie either.
Image from nataliedee.com
It's Friday. Enjoy your weekend everyone and more updates next week.
In other news, the tuxedo search is pretty much a wrap. Just working out some details. Very classy details. No spats though. No white tie either.
Image from nataliedee.com
It's Friday. Enjoy your weekend everyone and more updates next week.
Monday, July 28, 2008
BBQ
I would just like to thank those who came out this past Saturday for the get together. The weather was great, the meat was meaty, the music perfect, and the company was exemplary. We thank you for your company as you helped us take a necessary step back and really savor our engagement. Amidst all the decisions, paperwork, phone calls, and open houses, this was exactly what we needed to energize us as the wedding draws closer. We hope you had as good of a time as we did.
You guys are cool.
You guys are cool.
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
Stuff
Brown boxes arrive at my door weekly, filled with stuff we need for the wedding. Things I ordered online after hours of comparing prices and bargain hunting. Here's some stuff that arrived today:
It's bad because my studio apartment can't accommodate this accumulation of stuff, but we keep ordering more and more. I'm afraid of what it's gonna look like a month from now.
Here's Matthew trying to clean up.
It's bad because my studio apartment can't accommodate this accumulation of stuff, but we keep ordering more and more. I'm afraid of what it's gonna look like a month from now.
Here's Matthew trying to clean up.
Friday, July 18, 2008
Thursday, July 17, 2008
DIY
It seems like brides everywhere suddenly transform into Martha Stewart wannabes when they start wedding planning. So many blogs I read feature DIY projects for everything from cake toppers to invitations to decorations. It's so easy to get sucked into this and think that you can do everything yourself too.
But 1. I don't have time and 2. I'm not very crafty.
I also get bored easily and have a hard time finishing what I start.
My mom yelled at me because our wedding favors are DIY and can't be assembled until the last minute. She's probably right that we're going to be too stressed out with a bizillion other things to do during the last week before the wedding, but I'm being stubborn and hoping that people will help. But it's turning into a beast of a project because I am never satisfied - it has about 6 different parts to it already and I'm still thinking of more things to add to it. My sister came up with the idea to create tiny paper flowers as the favor topper instead of my sticker labels that print crooked. Now we are going to make hundreds of orange flowers until our fingers bleed.
And it doesn't end there. I just found another blog that had this idea of DIY table numbers/guest books. The number is made of a notebook for guests to leave notes for the couple. How clever!
Then there are these cake toppers made with little birds and such, so I want to buy stuff from this Etsy shop and create some sort of stage/background for our figurines.
Then there are escort cards to think of and cocktail hour and ceremony decorations and wedding programs that I want to personalize and make myself. I'm obsessing over all these details and I shouldn't, I know, but I can't help it! Help.
But 1. I don't have time and 2. I'm not very crafty.
I also get bored easily and have a hard time finishing what I start.
My mom yelled at me because our wedding favors are DIY and can't be assembled until the last minute. She's probably right that we're going to be too stressed out with a bizillion other things to do during the last week before the wedding, but I'm being stubborn and hoping that people will help. But it's turning into a beast of a project because I am never satisfied - it has about 6 different parts to it already and I'm still thinking of more things to add to it. My sister came up with the idea to create tiny paper flowers as the favor topper instead of my sticker labels that print crooked. Now we are going to make hundreds of orange flowers until our fingers bleed.
And it doesn't end there. I just found another blog that had this idea of DIY table numbers/guest books. The number is made of a notebook for guests to leave notes for the couple. How clever!
Then there are these cake toppers made with little birds and such, so I want to buy stuff from this Etsy shop and create some sort of stage/background for our figurines.
Then there are escort cards to think of and cocktail hour and ceremony decorations and wedding programs that I want to personalize and make myself. I'm obsessing over all these details and I shouldn't, I know, but I can't help it! Help.
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Cake for real
Okay, so here are our cake choices from Le Petit Gateau Bakery (Click image to enlarge).
What do you think? Comment with your vote. We go in for a cake tasting on Friday!
Monday, July 14, 2008
How's It Going?
That's pretty much what everyone is asking right now.
Bluntly, it's going. Which sucks. We're getting married and the "it's going" feeling is really the last thing you want to feel. You want to be happy and excited and all of that good stuff. It's just emotional fraying, as we're being spread very thin and are getting exhausted. It's a test for sure, the most worthwhile one I can imagine, and one in which we will persevere stronger as a couple. I'm confident of that. But do we really not get to have any fun until September 21st?
We want so badly for it to be a beautiful, memorable, unforgettable day, that our friends and family will remember and be (selfishly) impressed by. We want it to be full of personality and emotion, a day that reflects who we are. We want people to smile and to say to themselves, "That was very Ji Eun and Matthew." In a good way! And that's the hard part.
It's been frustrating because it is the first time for both families and no one is quite sure what their roles and responsibilities are. We are partly to blame for not making it very very clear what we expect. It's our first time too, and sometimes we feel bad doling out responsibilities. Maybe we're just selfless or maybe we just don't trust anyone with out vision. It's really both. Regardless, learning from this experience is really worthless to us. It's a luxury we reap none of the benefit of. You don't get to learn. This is it. One shot to make it everything you want. (Shaking hands) That's pressure.
We aren't exactly dealing with a large window to plan things out, as we are just now about six and a half months removed from engagement. Such a small time line to get things done, coupled with details that pop up every day has made for a lot of stress and anxiousness. One thing gets done, ten more details pop up. Straightforward things fracture off into a a tangled mess.
Our favorite thing right now is "Why didn't you..." I dunno. Because we already took care of it, reserved it, made plans, etc. We can't change it. We can't go back in time, so please support us and our decisions. This is what we want. What we really need is help before we make final calls.
Marriage is a beautiful thing. Love is the greatest thing on Earth. Wedding planning is Sisyphean. It's an uphill journey. We can't wait to get rid of that boulder and to start on life together. I can almost see it now. Or is that just Queens?
I would be remiss if I didn't thank everyone that has helped, because we do appreciate it. So thank you for everything you've helped us with, the kind words of encouragement, and patience, and for caring.
More blogs to come. If our heads don't explode.
Bluntly, it's going. Which sucks. We're getting married and the "it's going" feeling is really the last thing you want to feel. You want to be happy and excited and all of that good stuff. It's just emotional fraying, as we're being spread very thin and are getting exhausted. It's a test for sure, the most worthwhile one I can imagine, and one in which we will persevere stronger as a couple. I'm confident of that. But do we really not get to have any fun until September 21st?
We want so badly for it to be a beautiful, memorable, unforgettable day, that our friends and family will remember and be (selfishly) impressed by. We want it to be full of personality and emotion, a day that reflects who we are. We want people to smile and to say to themselves, "That was very Ji Eun and Matthew." In a good way! And that's the hard part.
It's been frustrating because it is the first time for both families and no one is quite sure what their roles and responsibilities are. We are partly to blame for not making it very very clear what we expect. It's our first time too, and sometimes we feel bad doling out responsibilities. Maybe we're just selfless or maybe we just don't trust anyone with out vision. It's really both. Regardless, learning from this experience is really worthless to us. It's a luxury we reap none of the benefit of. You don't get to learn. This is it. One shot to make it everything you want. (Shaking hands) That's pressure.
We aren't exactly dealing with a large window to plan things out, as we are just now about six and a half months removed from engagement. Such a small time line to get things done, coupled with details that pop up every day has made for a lot of stress and anxiousness. One thing gets done, ten more details pop up. Straightforward things fracture off into a a tangled mess.
Our favorite thing right now is "Why didn't you..." I dunno. Because we already took care of it, reserved it, made plans, etc. We can't change it. We can't go back in time, so please support us and our decisions. This is what we want. What we really need is help before we make final calls.
Marriage is a beautiful thing. Love is the greatest thing on Earth. Wedding planning is Sisyphean. It's an uphill journey. We can't wait to get rid of that boulder and to start on life together. I can almost see it now. Or is that just Queens?
I would be remiss if I didn't thank everyone that has helped, because we do appreciate it. So thank you for everything you've helped us with, the kind words of encouragement, and patience, and for caring.
More blogs to come. If our heads don't explode.
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
Eat Cake
Thanks to Maggie for being the only one to read this blog and actually searching for that ribbon. Martha Stewart must have gotten it custom made by some poor child laborers in a remote Chinese sweatshop because i cannot find it anywhere. Thanks for trying.
Now it's time for cake. I'm just dabbling in this area right now. Who knows what our assigned bakery is capable of making--we'll probably end up with a sheet cake decorated with balloons and bears. Don't matter - I can look at other people's pretty cakes. Here are some pictures of random nice cakes that probably cost like $20 per slice.
Tell me what you think and you can be honest. This orange thing might be getting out of hand.
Here is a cookie favor and a cupcake too. Cute, huh?
Now it's time for cake. I'm just dabbling in this area right now. Who knows what our assigned bakery is capable of making--we'll probably end up with a sheet cake decorated with balloons and bears. Don't matter - I can look at other people's pretty cakes. Here are some pictures of random nice cakes that probably cost like $20 per slice.
Tell me what you think and you can be honest. This orange thing might be getting out of hand.
Here is a cookie favor and a cupcake too. Cute, huh?
Friday, June 20, 2008
Monday, June 16, 2008
What? Me Worry?
Had to go to the doctor's office today to take my first ever stress test. You know, the thing where they hook you up to ten electrodes and have you run on a treadmill at increasing speeds all the while checking your vitals.
Well, at one point they started asking me questions about the wedding. After a while they noticed that when the subject of our marriage came up, my blood pressure actually went down. How about that?
Lesson learned: When you are running up indoor hills at escalating speeds, it's good to be engaged.
Or if you prefer, love is good for you.
Word to Slim Goodbody!
Well, at one point they started asking me questions about the wedding. After a while they noticed that when the subject of our marriage came up, my blood pressure actually went down. How about that?
Lesson learned: When you are running up indoor hills at escalating speeds, it's good to be engaged.
Or if you prefer, love is good for you.
Word to Slim Goodbody!
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
This DJ
Quick reader poll:
What is a great song to play at a wedding reception?
What is a horrible song to never play at a wedding reception?
If you don't answer seriously, you will be suspended from the cocktail hour for 15 minutes.
What is a great song to play at a wedding reception?
What is a horrible song to never play at a wedding reception?
If you don't answer seriously, you will be suspended from the cocktail hour for 15 minutes.
Walking through the Forest
While planning for the rapidly approaching nuptials, a concurrent search for a place to call home is under way.
What I know is this: There is no such thing as a housing slump in New York. Not in Manhattan, not in Queens, not in Brooklyn, not anywhere we want to live. That pretty much sucks. Regardless, we forge on. Urban pilgrims in search of a larger life that includes two bedrooms and some closet space. That and mass transit so we can retreat back to our apple oasis.
The last two weekends were filled with open house meet and greets, mostly through Forest Hills (which we pretty much like more than any other place besides Manhattan), where we did a lot of walking, and hoped we would find our affordable Shangrila. Much like bananas, each place had it's bruises. Some were light (small bathrooms, weird wallpaper) and some were slimy brown mush-fests (maze-like backwards set up, no stand up shower in tub). Opening up closet doors was like discovering new geometric shapes.
We are hardly disheartened after two weeks (except for the fact that some unnamed and recently married couple admitting they loved the first place they saw and bought it) but we long for a place we fall in love with. A place that we walk into and a picture of the future is painted before our ambitious eyes. Our room, our office, the exactly perfect place to put our cake holder. I know that no one gets a break, but we did look at 21 different reception halls. Can't the law of averages see-saw in our direction?
A new address. A place where magazines can be delivered. A place of our own, full of the overwhelming amount of stuff our parents want vacated from their houses. We'll live there. You can visit.
But we have to find it first.
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Side note: Was out looking for a Pop's Day card for Glenn and noticed an inordinate amount of cards related to how much gas dad passes. What gives with all the Farters Day Cards?
Thursday, May 29, 2008
Straight Update
So, we haven't posted in a while (ahem, Matthew).
But we've been busy.
After countless meetings, endless research, and tremendous toil, we've booked:
1. An awesome DJ from Brooklyn who comes with rave reviews
2. A Trio of Ceremony Musicians for a bargain
3. An expensive Photographer who might be too cool for us
4. A Florist named Vito who loves orange
Check, Check, Check, Check! I feel so much better that these major players are set.
Oh, and I also picked and ordered the bridesmaids' dresses finally. Woohoo!
We went and visited the Rockleigh again when my mom was in town. She loved it and said we did a good job finding it (phew!). I had another oh my gosh moment when they turned on the chandeliers in the ballroom - in a few short months, we'll dance on that floor and we'll be married! It looked beautiful and they even have a renovated bridal suite upstairs. Swanky.
So what's left?
Officiant (One more piece of paper and I'm okay by the Catholic church)
Invitations (Should I make my own?)
Tuxes (You're gonna like the way you look.)
Honeymoon (Aloha?)
Favors (We need volunteers to tie little ribbons)
Another major thing is housing - we went apartment hunting in Queens last weekend and found a couple places with potential but not the ONE yet. We're also looking in Brooklyn but that's a further commute. I'll be happy wherever we end up, since I'm guaranteed more closet space.
We're almost there!
But we've been busy.
After countless meetings, endless research, and tremendous toil, we've booked:
1. An awesome DJ from Brooklyn who comes with rave reviews
2. A Trio of Ceremony Musicians for a bargain
3. An expensive Photographer who might be too cool for us
4. A Florist named Vito who loves orange
Check, Check, Check, Check! I feel so much better that these major players are set.
Oh, and I also picked and ordered the bridesmaids' dresses finally. Woohoo!
We went and visited the Rockleigh again when my mom was in town. She loved it and said we did a good job finding it (phew!). I had another oh my gosh moment when they turned on the chandeliers in the ballroom - in a few short months, we'll dance on that floor and we'll be married! It looked beautiful and they even have a renovated bridal suite upstairs. Swanky.
So what's left?
Officiant (One more piece of paper and I'm okay by the Catholic church)
Invitations (Should I make my own?)
Tuxes (You're gonna like the way you look.)
Honeymoon (Aloha?)
Favors (We need volunteers to tie little ribbons)
Another major thing is housing - we went apartment hunting in Queens last weekend and found a couple places with potential but not the ONE yet. We're also looking in Brooklyn but that's a further commute. I'll be happy wherever we end up, since I'm guaranteed more closet space.
We're almost there!
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
Prettybitter
Hahahaha... I love it.
I read about this stationery company, PrettyBitter and I am so mad I didn't think of it first. They have a line of note cards called "Man Notes" with manly stuff like grenades and lawnmowers adorning the pretty paper.
I wonder if they would do our wedding invitations...
Friday, May 2, 2008
How about Vegas?
The Bellagio Wedding Package $3,900.00 (Including tax)
And since we're sick of dilly-dallying about vendors, we might just go with her.
I hope we don't regret it later.
- One and One Half Hours of Chapel Time (East or South) Inclusive of Chapel Photography
- Officiant
- Bride's Bouquet and Groom's Boutonniere Floral Package
- Walkway of Fresh White Petals for Bride's Processional (includes 1 bag)
- Use of Bellagio Custom Aisle Runner
- One DVD of your wedding ceremony with Custom Certificate
- Live Broadcasting of your Wedding Ceremony on the Internet
- A Selection of Wedding Music to be Played During your Ceremony
- A Bottle of Dampierre Champagne
- Beverly Clark Toasting Flutes
- Bellagio's Jean Philippe Maury Gourmet Chocolates
- Bellagio Wedding Certificate
- The Bellagio Photography Package (see details under Photography Section)
- One Additional Hour of Photography with Fifteen Additional Images Shot Around the Resort
- Limousine Service from Bellagio to the Marriage License Bureau (Bride and Groom only)
- Use of Bridal Dressing Room for One Half Hour Prior to Ceremony
- Rehearsal for your Wedding Party (appointment to be made 2 weeks prior to Ceremony)
- Complimentary Buffet for Two at Bellagio
Wow, champagne AND complimentary buffet? All this for a fraction of the cost of just our florist! Matt, how about it?
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We met with a photographer at a bar last night. She bought us drinks. Champagne mojitos. We like her a lot. Alcohol is a good sales tool.And since we're sick of dilly-dallying about vendors, we might just go with her.
I hope we don't regret it later.
Monday, April 28, 2008
28
As some of you may be aware, Friday was my birthday. While getting older is getting more cringe worthy by the year, I had a great one.
A intimate dinner at Echo, cream puffs from Beard Papa (where they are TALKING coffee), followed up by thee Old Oaks, one of the greatest drinks ever - a mixture of dark rum, brandy, and whatever else makes it delicious, at Angel Share. We took slow sips and stared out of the street side windows, observing the gaggles of NYU undergrads (who amusingly still traveled in packs) and the other too cool denizens of Soho. It was the exact way I wanted to end my week, end my birthday, and start the weekend.
Saturday found Ji and I figuring out our wedding band situation. Ji is deciding between two, and I just wish I had fingers that complimented wearing rings. Stupid pinkie knuckle. An iron chariot downtown and I was buying socks, she was buying pants. These two articles of clothing are often paired together when dressing. However, I wouldn't recommend guys wearing women's trousers unless you have been castrated or are a prominent member of an emo band...which some may argue is the same thing. Finally we looked at some invitations, mostly just to get ideas, at Kate's Paperie. We were a little unimpressed by how limited the choices are. Perhaps we're just turned off by how safe and uninspired the options tend to be.
We later met up with Dirt and the Pub Crawlers for some Unos. The birthday doesn't end, as I was serenaded by the staff and presented with a celebratory cheesecake. Later that night, I joined in consuming a fish bowl full of adult beverage for the right to claim a plastic alligator. He is actually smiling as I write this.
Sunday found me sitting in my Union meeting, waiting to meet Ji for brunch. My taste buds have decided to confuse me more these days. The other night I had curry despite not liking Indian food. Sunday I ordered an omelet. It was filled with cheddar cheese and bacon so it's not like I really tasted any of the egg though. It was a splendid meal despite getting someone's pear Bellini spilled on me. Since the rain was holding off, we spent the afternoon strolling through some of the 250 acres of nature in the middle of the city.
We saw:
- Two couples taking wedding photos
- A puppet show that features a very depressed frog
- Trees that grew flowers all over their bark
- A dog stroller
- Two guys Bo fighting on a bridge
- A birthday party by the merry-go-round
- Shy turtles
- A guy who sucked at softball
- A kung-fu rasta in plaid
- An egret named George
It was a very New York weekend. More importantly it seemed like a weekend off. It was the both of us enjoying each other's company with no stress. I think it's just as crucial a step as any: not to forget how to spend time together. Whether you make plans or just let the day take you where it may, it's what being a couple is all about. That it happened on my birthday weekend was just a bonus.
Friday, April 25, 2008
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